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BREAKING: CNN Says Rumor That Michael Brown Fractured Darren Wilson's Eye Socket is False, Protest For Officer Wilson's Arrest & Charges May Last Into October

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The Washington Post reported earlier today that a friend of Ferguson police officer Darren Wilson says Wilson’s eye socket was broken during his confrontation with Michael Brown:

The signs of easing tensions came as a family friend of the officer who fatally shot Brown came forward to allege new details of the incident, saying that the officer suffered a fracture to his eye socket in a scuffle with the unarmed teenager before opening fire.
Hospital X-rays of the injury have been submitted to the St. Louis County prosecuting attorney and will be shared with a grand jury now weighing evidence to determine whether Officer Darren Wilson should be charged in the shooting.

That claim appears to have been undermined. For one, the Post is now reportingthat prosecutors have not seen any of Wilson’s medical records:

[Spokesperson Ed] Magee said that prosecutors have not received any medical records relating to Wilson so far. ​But he said that since Wilson was taken to the hospital, they assume there are medical records and they just haven’t received them yet.

And CNN producer Julian Cummings, who last week correctly reported that the release of Wilson’s name was imminent, reports that the claim Wilson had a broken eye bone is flat-out incorrect:

St. Louis County prosecutor Robert McCulloch says the grand jury that will decide whether or not to indict Wilson may not hear all evidence in the case until October.

Source: Ben Mathis-Lilley for Slate

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"Waste of good ammo. It’s my privilege to buy you a replacement box."

"All self-respecting whites have a moral responsibility to support our growing number of martyrs to the failed experiment called diversity."

"I thank all Police, you are the ‘Thin Blue Line’ protecting normal Americans from aggressive and entitled primitive savages. America is surely at the tipping point."

Just a few quotes (in case it’s hard to read) from that collection of donation messages for Darren Wilson.

Does anyone else want to say it’s not about race?

Is his gofundme page not in violation? Shouldn’t we report it?

"(d) items that promote hate, violence, racial intolerance, or the financial exploitation of a crime"

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I hope you meet someone who wants to experience you and not just see you by their eyes. Someone who doesn’t only want to have sex with you but moves their fingers over your body like trying to find a city on a world map and mark their favourite destinations. Someone who wants to experience you like a masterpiece. whenever we observe a masterpiece we get the urge to touch it and most of the time we do, involuntarily, because it’s so perfect that we not only want to see it with our eyes and forget it’s details later on because I read somewhere that every time you recall a memory your brain edits it bit by bit so we long to experience it so that each part which contributes to it’s perfection stays with us afterall how scary it would be to forget how perfect you felt. So I hope someone experiences you like a summer breeze stroking your hair, like the warmth of bonfire on a chilly winter night, like the taste of that traditional homemade dish by a mother for her children who’s taste forever lingers in their mouth. I hope you find someone who justifies in treating you like the perfect art you are.
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Random Twerking!: Girls Twerk In Public! 

LMFAO i’m so here for black girls acting up and being silly in public

This made me so happy :)

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eva embers
I Thought You Were A Girl

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i thought you were a girl

by eva embers

 

your hand is on my waist.  i didn’t ask you to put it there, but i don’t make you remove it.

‘i thought you were a girl,’ you say.

‘you thought right, cause i am a girl,’ i reply.

i shouldn’t have to say this to you, and i shouldn’t have to say it for the third time.
there are so many people at this show, all these strait people, all these dudes,
everyone who isn’t part of my queer community, none of them bothered me.
but you’re supposed to be my ally.  you’re the ‘L’ in the acronym and i’m the ‘T,’ but i’m an ‘L’ too.

i know what you mean.  you thought i was a cis woman.
you thought i wasn’t born with a penis.
you thought the dip in my waist where your hand rests
was from estrogen instead of me not eating.

its one of the hardest parts of my transition.
i haven’t started hormones yet, it’s still a couple of months before i get to go through that.  i’m still trying to grow out my hair and i’m terrified that the testosterone
and the constant fear will make it fall out.
i’m not talking to my family.  my mother told me she thought i was going to mutilate my body, she told me i’m sick.  she hasn’t yet broken down in tears and promised to stop fighting me.

your hand is still on my waist.  your touch communicates the attraction you feel, and i haven’t been touched like that in what feels like forever.

‘i thought you were a girl.’

‘i am a girl.’

you’re talking to me about surgeries.  you’re talking to me about laser hair removal.  you’re talking to me about moving fat around with sound waves.  you work in a clinic.  you treat trans people.

‘i know what kind of body you want,’ you tell me.

you tell me all of these things in a loud voice, over the music.  you don’t stop to wonder if its safe for me to shout about being trans in a room full of strangers.  you don’t know how hard it was for me to come here, to feel safe enough to leave my room.  every time i’m certain that people will stare at me, and if i’m lucky they’ll only stare, or call me sir.  but right now you’re the only one staring.

i feel your stare, and i feel it through your hand.

you thought i was a cis girl, and you think its a compliment to tell me that.
because i’m passable and that’s the best thing to be.

i explained it to you and i felt embarrassed.  you calmly told me that i didn’t understand your intention, that you just don’t know the right words.

almost no one knows the right words.
i understand your intention.
i’m embarrassed because you mistook me for a cis woman.
i’m embarrassed that you think its a compliment to tell me i’m something i’m not.
i’m embarrassed that my heart still jumps to hear that you looked at me and saw a girl.

i feel disgusted that these words feel good to me.
i feel pathetic that even insults sound good to me.
i hate myself because i want to scream at you,
but instead i try calmly to explain that you didn’t make a mistake,
that i’m not a transvestite.  because i need you.  i need you to know better.
because i want us to be on the same side.
i hate that i’m still talking to you.

i hate that your hand is still on my waist.

‘i thought you were a girl.’

i am a girl.  i am a girl.  i am a girl.

"i feel disgusted that these words feel good to me.
i feel pathetic that even insults sound good to me.
i hate myself because i want to scream at you,”

i haven’t started hormones yet, it’s still a couple of months before i get to go through that.  i’m still trying to grow out my hair and i’m terrified that the testosterone

and the constant fear will make it fall out.”

ugly sobbing right now

/hugs

i’m in a better place now than i was a year ago when i recorded this.  i hope you get to a better place too.  <3

That’s… brutally beautiful…

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We praise people for being “naturally” smart, too, “naturally” athletic, and etc. But studies continue to show, as they have for some time now, that it is generally healthier to praise schoolchildren for being hardworking, than for being naturally gifted. We know now that to emphasize a child’s inherent ability places pressure on that child to continue to be accidentally talented, which is something that is hard for anyone to control. When the children who are applauded for their natural skills fail, they are shown to take the failure very personally. After all, the process of their success has always seemed mysterious and basic and inseparable from the rest of their identity, so it must be they who are failing as whole people. When students are instead complimented and rewarded for their effort and improvement, they tend to not be so hard on themselves. When they fail, they reason, “Well, I’ll work harder next time.” They learn that they are capable of success, rather than constantly automatically deserving of it, and they learn simultaneously that they are bigger and more complex than their individual successes or failures.

Kate of Eat the Damn Cake, The Stupidity of “Natural” Beauty (via theimperfectascent)

I lost whole years of my life to self-loathing and self-sabotaging because I couldn’t sustain being ‘gifted’.  Don’t make the same mistake.

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The above are the first 3 responses to Dr. Redmond’s spot on tweet. This is the boorish behavior that Black people have to deal with from white people for merely speaking out against white supremacy. The harassment from white people towards Black people is constant and virulent. If you’re a Black person speaking out against white supremacy, white people will attack you or at the very least, they will have a major problem with you. They will attack you more than a “good” white person saying the exact same thing. Tim Wise does not put up with an inkling of the abuse Black people endure and he isn’t saying anything new. Discourse about white supremacy from a white mouth is more palatable to the white masses than from the mouths of those victimized by white supremacy.

Ironically, the “good” white people become like the rest of their white brethren when they attempt to separate themselves by saying “not all white people”. They too become a nuisance that everlastingly badgers. They are largely silent about injustice, inequity and marginalization at the hands of white supremacy. However, the minute the marginalized speak out against their abusers, they are quick to lend a voice in defense of the abusers. It’s because even when white people are clearly abusers, other white people still see their humanity. In the face of this abuse, merely pointing out that the perpetrators of the abuse are white angers white people. The abuse itself doesn’t elicit the same level of anger from them.

Another problem are these alleged white liberals. Truth be told, I get more harassment from white liberals than from anyone else. White conservatives don’t hide their disdain for Blackness. For them, it’s a badge of honor. We know where they stand. White liberals in contrast tend to be silent, but will speak up to center themselves in a crisis or will be apologetic towards white abusers, instead of condemning them. Many will not acknowledge that white supremacy even exists. If they do acknowledge a problem, they will wrap it up in empty platitudes about everyone needing to get along, how they don’t see race, how we’re all human, how they have Black friends or whatever post-racial nonsense they ascribe to, as if that addresses white supremacy. They believe that the problem “goes both ways”.

If the above isn’t you as a white person, do not take this as your cue to respond with “not all white people”. As the saying goes, the hit dog will holler. If something does not apply to you, then why are you hollering? Did I hit you? Maybe I did. The only thing many white people can bring themselves to say in response to Black suffering and white supremacy is “not all white people” or "this is reverse racism" or their favorite chopped up MLK Jr. quote “hate cannot drive out hate”. The response from white people is never a unanimous “the system of white supremacy is a scourge that must end and we must fight to end it”. It is never that.

Whiteness will always justify the extermination of Blackness. Mike Brown was gunned down in Ferguson by officer Darren Wilson and the Ferguson police in turn releases video stills of what they claim to be Brown being an alleged criminal days after his murder. This was completely unrelated to his murder, but there is always a reason for dead Black bodies when whiteness governs. So why did they release these stills if the Ferguson police themselves have admitted that it is completely unrelated to Brown’s murder at the hands of officer Darren Wilson? They did it to smear his image. This is a tactic of white supremacy. It always smears the image of a Black victim.

When Black people are victimized and dehumanized, they still aren’t quite human in the eyes of many white people. At least not on the level of white humanity. It’s why a white terrorist like Dzhokhar Tsarnaev can be put on the cover of Rolling Stone, like he’s a heartthrob in a boy band, and be described as “popular and promising”, while unarmed Black people murdered by white people are criminalized in death. Their image gets smeared because full victimhood is relegated to whiteness. Innocence and chasteness will be awarded to a white murderer before a Black murder victim.

I don’t argue or engage with white people on this subject anymore. This Malcolm X quote is forever relevant. I’ll respond or say my piece if need be, but I won’t debate a white person about Black humanity. My response to “good” white folks will always be “go and get your people”. That’s all I have to say to them. Truly good white people don’t need to be told that. They know. Word to John Brown.

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Searching for Knowledge: Guide to Spotting Klansmen, Neo-Nazis, Racist Skinheads, and Other White Supremacists

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Since the shooting at the Sikh Temple by Wade Page, there’s been a lot of discussion about the white supremacist subculture of which he was a part. Much of this discussion has involved the type of imagery and symbols white supremacists use to mark their dedication to their movements, to identify each other, and to advertise their politics.

Not many people seem to have been aware of how wide spread these organizations are, nor how their members usually present themselves. Therefore, I’m trying to create a complete (or as close as is possible) guide to the symbols, flags, slogans, coded messages, ways of dress, etc. that can be used to identify klansmen, neo-Nazis, racist skinheads, and other white supremacists. 

If you see any errors here, please let me know and I will correct them. Please reblog with anything I might have missed, and I’ll add it to the master list. Some of comes from discussions that I have with people who’ve had social interactions with white supremacists, who’ve been attacked by neo-Nazis, or who are involved in anti-fascist activism. Other things I’ve read or heard from various sources over the last few years. In addition, I did a lot online research for this guide, and those sources are included at the end. Anything that appears in quotations comes from one of these sources. 

Sometimes these symbols are tattooed onto the bodies of white supremacists. In other cases, they’re used on patches, badges, banners or flags. 

Here we go: 

14: This stands for the 14- slogan written by David Lane, an American white supremacist, “We must secure the existence of our people and a future for white children.”

18: “Adolf Hitler.” (A is the first letter of the alphabet, H is the 8th). 

33/5: “Used primarily by people involved in a Klan organization. The 22 represents three times eleven, with eleven representing the eleventh letter in the alphabet, ‘K.’ The 5 stands for the 5th era of the Klan or today’s Klan.”

4R: Used by Fourth Reich Skins. The 4 and the R are often joined. 

88: “Heil Hitler.” (H is the 8th letter in the alphabet).

AB: Aryan Brotherhood, a white supremacist prison gang that can be found throughout the US. The letter often feature in prison tattoos. The AB also likes to use tattooed shamrocks consisting of three 6’s woven together, often intricately hidden among other artwork. 

American Front Symbol: 

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American racist skinhead group lead by David Lynch. 

Aryan Nations Symbol

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Aryan Nations is associated with the Christian Identity movement. That’s the “the Old Testament was about Europeans and Jews were created by Satan and people of color are soulless ‘mud people’” folks. 

BH: “Blood and Honor.” Nazi slogan. Various neo-Nazi organizations have gone by this name. 

Blue flight jacket with orange lining: Part of the racist skinhead wardrobe.

Blut und Ehre: “Blood and Honor.” See BH for more information. 

Black Boots with White Laces: Sign of a German neo-Nazi. These are also worn by American neo-Nazis, who favor Doc Martins. (Note that Doc Martins are also popular among Queer woman - or at least they were in the past, I might be behind the times, fashion-wise). 

Black Sun/Sun Wheel:

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Occult symbol, often appropriated by neo-Nazis, especially in Germany.  

Boneheads: Another term for Skinheads, used in the American south. 

Celtic Cross: 

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A symbol of “strength,” the Celtic cross is often used by racists, but is also frequently seen in non-racist contexts. The “blood drop” version is used by the KKK.  

Clothing labels: Thor Steinar, Consdaple, Ansgar Aryan, Troublemaker are all associated with German neo-Nazis. 

Confederate Flag (Stars and Bars):

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Not everyone who bears this flag is necessarily a klansman/neo-Nazi/skinhead (though it’s a good bet that anyone seen with it is a least a little racist) but it’s an old standby for white supremacists.

Crossed claw hammers:

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These hammers, which resemble a pair of goose-stepping legs, are used the Hammerskins, who are based out of the United States but who’s area of operation includes Australia, Canada, Czech Republic, France, Germany, Hungary, Italy, New Zealand, Portugal, Slovakia, Spain, Sweden, and Switzerland.

I’ve been told that there are some German fascist organizations who also use two crossed sledge hammers. 

 Death’s Head:

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Used by Nazi SS then and neo-Nazis now.  

Hangman’s Noose: 

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Often used with the intention of intimating people of color. Can be an imagine of an noose or an actual noose. Linked to the American tradition of lynching Black folks. 

HFFH:”Hammerskin forever, Forever Hammerskin.”The Hammerskins are a multinational organization of neo-Nazis who typically take as their symbol a pair of crossed hammers. 

Hungarian Arrow and Cross:

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First used by Hungarian fascists but today this symbol is often used by White Supremacist groups.

Imperial German Flag/Reichskriegsflagge:

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There’s nothing innately racist about this flag (of which there are many variations) but it’s often used as a stand-in for the Nazi flag, especially in places where it is illegal to show a swastika. Wikipedia says that “Outside of educational, artistic or scientific contexts, selling and showing symbols of Nazi Germany, including the Reichskriegsflagge, is illegal in Germany… This covers the version used after 1935 with the swastika. The original flag used between 1871 and 1919 can be shown depending on circumstances in different states of Germany. Because members of the far right have used the imperial war flag as a symbol, its use is considered to be a ‘breach of the public order’ in seven states, and flags will be confiscated. In the other nine states, any provocative misuse of the flag can be prosecuted as an ‘Ordnungswidrigkeit’ (summary offense).”

Iron Cross:  

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Fairly common symbol that is only sometimes associated with whit supremacists. More brazen fascists use the version with a swastika in the center.   

 Iron Eagle:

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Norse/Runic Symbols (Life Rune, Ordin’s Rune, Valknot, Wolfsangel, etc):

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Many of these runes were appropriated by the Nazis, and are still used by neo-Nazis today. HOWEVER, many non-racist groups, such as pagans, also use these symbols.  

ORION: “Our Race is Our Nation.” KKK slogan, often appears on banners.

RAHOWA: “Racial Holy War.” “The expression “Racial Holy War,” signifies the battle that white supremacists believe will pit the white race against minorities and Jews and lead to Aryan rule over the world.”

ROA: “Race over all.” Neo-Nazi slogan, especially Volksfront.

Rock Against Communism: 

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Far-right music genre. Anti-Communist rhetoric is involved, but the main focus is racism, nationalism, anti-Semitism, and so on. 

 Shaven head:

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A shaven head is the most obvious sign of a skin-head. However, it should be noted that not all skin-heads are neo-Nazis/white supremacist; the skin-head look originated in punk and mod communities in the United Kingdom in the 1960s. It was later appropriated by white nationalist movements, including “the National Front, British Movement, Rock Against Communism and in the late eighties Blood and Honor. Because of this, the mainstream media began to label the whole skinhead identity as neo-Nazi. This new white power skinhead movement then spread to other countries, including the United States.”

SHARP (Skinheads Against Racial Prejudice), which is based out of the US, is one anti-racist skinhead organization. ARA (Anti-Racist Action) is another. 

SS Lightening Bolt Runes:

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Symbol of Himmler’s special police. 

Sturmabteilung (SA/Brownshirts) Symbol: 

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Swastika Variants: 

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Most commonly used in countries where the swastika is banned, but occasionally seen in the US. 

Triskelion:

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triskelion or triskele is a motif consisting of three interlocked spirals, or three bent human legs, or any similar symbol with three protrusions and a threefold rotational symmetry” (wiki). This is an ancient symbol that is often used by neopagans. However, far Right extremists have recently appropriated it, especially in Germany. 

Unsere Ehre Heisst Treue: “Our Honor is Loyalty.” SS slogan, often seen on neo-Nazi banners as well as for tattoos.

WAR Logo:

image Symbol for California-based White Aryan Resistance, but commonly used by many skinheads.  

White Power/Aryan Power Fist:

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 One of those that you have to be careful about. A clenched fist is also a common Leftist symbol, but is normally rendered in black or red.

Can also appear-knuckles first, with the word “Skin” written across the fingers. The word “skin” is also tattooed across the fingers of racist skin-heads.  

WPWW: “White Pride World Wide.” Commonly used as a greeting, especially online.  

 Sources:

http://vkb.isvg.org/Wiki/Groups/Hammerskin_Nation

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reichskriegsflagge#Kriegsflagge

http://gbgm-umc.org/umw/anti-hate/symbolsofhate.html

http://www.spiegel.de/fotostrecke/photo-gallery-neo-nazi-symbols-revealed-fotostrecke-69688.html

http://www.adl.org

http://www.spiegel.de/international/germany/neo-nazi-fashion-thor-steinar-and-the-changing-look-of-the-german-far-right-a-587746.html

http://gbgm-umc.org

There’s also a call-and-response to see if you’re down for their cause. They say, “Zigga zigga zigga,” and your expected response is, “Kill a fucking nigga.” So if someone comes up to you and says that, probably they’re a Nazi and think you look like you could be one too.

i’ve seen a lot of these without knowing what they meant :-/

if someone ever said zigga to me i’d have previously assumed they were singing the spice girls

This looks spot on. 

The only thing I’d add is that “88” for “Heil Hitler” is really popular for usernames of white supremacists, but “88” is also a super lucky number in China, so a lot of Chinese people have it in names too, and are completely unaware there’s any Nazi connotation.

Message! Cus shit is is getting real and lots of ppl are gonna need this info.

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1. Trauma permanently changes us.

This is the big, scary truth about trauma: there is no such thing as “getting over it.” The five stages of grief model marks universal stages in learning to accept loss, but the reality is in fact much bigger: a major life disruption leaves a new normal in its wake. There is no “back to the old me.” You are different now, full stop.

This is not a wholly negative thing. Healing from trauma can also mean finding new strength and joy. The goal of healing is not a papering-over of changes in an effort to preserve or present things as normal. It is to acknowledge and wear your new life — warts, wisdom, and all — with courage.

2. Presence is always better than distance.

There is a curious illusion that in times of crisis people “need space.” I don’t know where this assumption originated, but in my experience it is almost always false. Trauma is a disfiguring, lonely time even when surrounded in love; to suffer through trauma alone is unbearable. Do not assume others are reaching out, showing up, or covering all the bases.

It is a much lighter burden to say, “Thanks for your love, but please go away,” than to say, “I was hurting and no one cared for me.” If someone says they need space, respect that. Otherwise, err on the side of presence.

3. Healing is seasonal, not linear.

It is true that healing happens with time. But in the recovery wilderness, emotional healing looks less like a line and more like a wobbly figure-8. It’s perfectly common to get stuck in one stage for months, only to jump to another end entirely … only to find yourself back in the same old mud again next year.

Recovery lasts a long, long time. Expect seasons.

4. Surviving trauma takes “firefighters” and “builders.” Very few people are both.

This is a tough one. In times of crisis, we want our family, partner, or dearest friends to be everything for us. But surviving trauma requires at least two types of people: the crisis team — those friends who can drop everything and jump into the fray by your side, and the reconstruction crew — those whose calm, steady care will help nudge you out the door into regaining your footing in the world. In my experience, it is extremely rare for any individual to be both a firefighter and a builder. This is one reason why trauma is a lonely experience. Even if you share suffering with others, no one else will be able to fully walk the road with you the whole way.

A hard lesson of trauma is learning to forgive and love your partner, best friend, or family even when they fail at one of these roles. Conversely, one of the deepest joys is finding both kinds of companions beside you on the journey.

5. Grieving is social, and so is healing.

For as private a pain as trauma is, for all the healing that time and self-work will bring, we are wired for contact. Just as relationships can hurt us most deeply, it is only through relationship that we can be most fully healed.

It’s not easy to know what this looks like — can I trust casual acquaintances with my hurt? If my family is the source of trauma, can they also be the source of healing? How long until this friend walks away? Does communal prayer help or trivialize?

Seeking out shelter in one another requires tremendous courage, but it is a matter of life or paralysis. One way to start is to practice giving shelter to others.

6. Do not offer platitudes or comparisons. Do not, do not, do not.

“I’m so sorry you lost your son, we lost our dog last year … ” “At least it’s not as bad as … ” “You’ll be stronger when this is over.” “God works in all things for good!”

When a loved one is suffering, we want to comfort them. We offer assurances like the ones above when we don’t know what else to say. But from the inside, these often sting as clueless, careless, or just plain false.

Trauma is terrible. What we need in the aftermath is a friend who can swallow her own discomfort and fear, sit beside us, and just let it be terrible for a while.

7. Allow those suffering to tell their own stories.

Of course, someone who has suffered trauma may say, “This made me stronger,” or “I’m lucky it’s only (x) and not (z).” That is their prerogative. There is an enormous gulf between having someone else thrust his unsolicited or misapplied silver linings onto you, and discovering hope for one’s self. The story may ultimately sound very much like “God works in all things for good,” but there will be a galaxy of disfigurement and longing and disorientation in that confession. Give the person struggling through trauma the dignity of discovering and owning for himself where, and if, hope endures.

8. Love shows up in unexpected ways.

This is a mystifying pattern after trauma, particularly for those in broad community: some near-strangers reach out, some close friends fumble to express care. It’s natural for us to weight expressions of love differently: a Hallmark card, while unsatisfying if received from a dear friend, can be deeply touching coming from an old acquaintance.

Ultimately every gesture of love, regardless of the sender, becomes a step along the way to healing. If there are beatitudes for trauma, I’d say the first is, “Blessed are those who give love to anyone in times of hurt, regardless of how recently they’ve talked or awkwardly reconnected or visited cross-country or ignored each other on the metro.” It may not look like what you’d request or expect, but there will be days when surprise love will be the sweetest.

9. Whatever doesn’t kill you …

In 2011, after a publically humiliating year, comedian Conan O’Brien gave students at Dartmouth College the following warning:

"Nietzsche famously said, ‘Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.’ … What he failed to stress is that it almost kills you.”
Odd things show up after a serious loss and creep into every corner of life: insatiable anxiety in places that used to bring you joy, detachment or frustration towards your closest companions, a deep distrust of love or presence or vulnerability.

There will be days when you feel like a quivering, cowardly shell of yourself, when despair yawns as a terrible chasm, when fear paralyzes any chance for pleasure. This is just a fight that has to be won, over and over and over again.

10. … Doesn’t kill you.

Living through trauma may teach you resilience. It may help sustain you and others in times of crisis down the road. It may prompt humility. It may make for deeper seasons of joy. It may even make you stronger.

It also may not.

In the end, the hope of life after trauma is simply that you have life after trauma. The days, in their weird and varied richness, go on. So will you.

Catherine Woodiwiss, “A New Normal: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma”  

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